Hello Friends and Family!
This article is dedicated to several, but for all to read if they like.
I was over at Herb Thiel’s site, ( I address my father as an entity online) and saw that he wrote a little about our family history. Link
I recommend it. You are not wasting your time in some sort of affiliate garbage.
A summary is that my grandfather married a young lady with child, adopting my father.
I always suspected this as my father looked nothing like his siblings.
Throughout my childhood, we took in families that were isolated for various reasons.
When I was a child, My mother would watch children mostly for free while their parents went to work. (Typically, single moms cannot afford child care.) Their sack lunches would contain luxuries I only dreamed of like Capri Suns, Fruit Roll Ups, and individual bags of Doritos. Sometimes, the children would be dropped off with Happy Meals.
I hated those kids. They took my mother’s attention from me and were provided with nice things. Later, one of the them broke my heart.
During the same time period, my dad was a Boy Scout Leader and the goofy Sunday School teacher the children made fun of. They learned this from their parents.
As I matured and had children of my own, I was enlightened to some extent. I realized that every day growing up, I had the security of knowing that my family was stable and a home cooked meal would be provided. There was a foundation in the Ways of God that provided the Bread of Life.
I did not have to leave my parent’s house and go to a broken home. I was home.
For brevity, I am skimming a lot of details.
The influence my parents had on me promoted a few positive behaviors.
I am a family man with a stable job, and I grow some of my own groceries, teaching others how to do so as well.
These eggs are fresh from the urban farm and we have frequent home cooked meals.
In addition, I teach physical education to youth and life lessons to the incarcerated.
I bring this up to demonstrate that my parent’s lifestyle choices promoted community leadership and those values have been passed to me even though it was not interpreted that way as a youth.
I look back and see from Herb Thiel’s article Link that this started long ago like a butterfly effect with my grandfather and perhaps those before him. It is up to me to carry the torch.
Those who mocked my father for his kind heart and silliness are absent from church and their children followed. Many of them have ruined their lives, failing to see the depth of the man they mocked and learning hard lessons better ingrained in a classroom setting.
In this, I am reminded of a scripture.
For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting. Galatians 6:8 KJV
The spirit I am hoping to write in is one of adoption. I recognize from my grandfather and father the importance of family and the stability it provides. I look to continue in this endeavor and adhere to these principles as well.
If I have ever told you,
“you are adopted with all the rights and priveledges contained therein,”
I mean it.
And yes, that means you if you were not sure.