Hello, Benjamin from Brother’s Campfire here!
If it is important to your boss, you should make it important to you as well, up to a certain extent.
I once had a supervisor that directed me to dance on a table and disrupt an awards ceremony. The boss was pushy and demanding, making it necessary to stand my ground as it went against good ole common sense. When I complained to the higher ups, my supervisor denied, denied, denied. It was awful. Had I done what was demanded I would have been legendary for all the wrong reasons.
Supervisors, and people in general can be tyrants, resulting in lasting repercussions. One of my former coworkers is missing an eye because he listened to a new manager at a tire company against his better judgement. Sometimes it is ok to say no. One thing that can go wrong .
A while ago, when I was 18, I was nearly killed in a tunnel when I put a wrench to a large water pipe that still had pressure. The pipe burst and water pinned me to a wall all while I was holding an impact wrench. I was bullied into doing it and almost cashed in. I never found my hard hat in that tunnel and they tried to charge me for it.
I had another boss that said he would break me. I stood up to him and demanded an explanation. He doubled down and stated it again with no frame of reference given. In typical bully fashion there was a lot of denying when I took it up the ladder.
There are many examples of foolish things supervisors have demanded, and I can go on and on with a topic we all have horror stories about.
Sometimes, I envision some of these ridiculous demands and statements in other settings like , oh I don’t know, the middle of the forest and wonder if some suits would walk with such bravado.
Probably not. Dress shoes are murder on the feet in uneven terrain and I have connections for sturdy outdoor footwear and would give my finest advice on appropriate attire.
With a history of abusive supervisors, I was leery and on guard in this new assignment. I am not fitting to let anyone mess with my livelihood or bully in my sphereof influence.
Then it happened just like I predicted…..
Well sort of.
My job has a diverse range of expectations and undefined responsibilities. In the people business, flexibility is required, as is a lot of active listening.
During a conversation that was quite lengthy and results oriented, I read the sign. My supervisor was gearing up for a boundary test.
I could see that supervisor look and the body language was just right. I knew what was coming.
I stared right back, defiant, ready to tell my boss how the cow chews the cud.
“You should try a blue polka dot bow tie. You would look sharp with one. “
All the spit and vinegar and gearing up for an epic argument was for naught.
“Sounds like a plan, Done. “ I said.
“I am joking,” says my supervisor.
“Too late,” I said. I will get the tie.
With grim determination I set about in search of one at thrift stores and outlets, but to no avail so I looked on Google at Bows N Ties and found me one.
The descriptor said,
“A bow tie fit for a king – or just an everyday kinda guy who likes to jazz up his look from time to time with something a little out of the blue – our Royal Blue Polka Dot Bow Tie is one you won’t soon forget. Aside from the usual solid colors, we feel like this bow tie, thanks to its diminutive dots, would go quite nicely with a pinstriped shirt or suit. Contrast is the name of the game. And that effect could be amplified with a matching pocket square”
Contrast, kingly, the dots, diminuative. The blues, royal ……. Sold. I can rock this.
So I ordered one. It hasn’t come in yet, but I look forward to giving it a try.
Contrast is the name of the game, and I can sport it with confidence it will demand. You see, If it’s important to your boss….
….it should be important to you.
That’s my story for the day, what’s yours?