Hello, Benjamin from Brother’s Campfire here!
I was talking to someone recently who told me that he has a lot of blog participation but most of the people that read are from far away.
There is a small number of folks that are in my physical vicinity that read my blog, and even fewer family members, so I am in the same boat. I have a few thoughts on why this is and I would love to know your experiences with this in the comments.
In short, I believe folks look at others through a lens and frame a perception. It can be uncomfortable to explore facets of an individual’s personality.
For example, I was talking to a lady who must see me as a clean cut young man with children in a private school. When I described how my 12 year old had to deal with a bully, she was shocked, not only because of what I described but that what I said came out of my mouth at all.
I chuckle at this.
Others I know have never seen me dressed up. It is kind of funny.
While I was not a paying customer, I brought the concept of facets of personality to a therapist and she thought that people wear masks to suit a need, but to have so many personalities like a gem is kind of Sybil-like.
I disagree. In the appropriate environments, I can describe myself as a poet, a dark broody thinker, or a welcoming, sociable individual and not contradict myself.
My dog Bubbles has 4 modes, fetch mode, sleep mode, got in the trash mode, and patrol mode. She is the same dog, and most of my neighbors only know her playful fetch mode. In some instances, her patrol mode can be unsettling to a stranger.
My hypothesis is this. Folks do not like to have their perception be wrong and are comfortable seeing one or few aspects of a person. It makes some uncomfortable to read a blog that expresses very real and personal thoughts.
The thought is not fully developed, but I see it in the blogosphere as well.
I rebuttal the poetry of @youlittlecharmer, discuss mechanical and scientific constructs with @erraticengineeress , light wit with @bharath10291 , the beauty of nature with @stevescountry and many other variations when blog hopping.
Do you have readers from far reaches or an even balance of those you know personally? What is your ratio of readers?
What do you think is the cause? I am very curious to know in the comments.