Hello, Benjamin from Brothers Campfire here!
Yesterday, I was approached by a female coworker about my unruly eyebrows and notified that they needed a trim.
“It’s genetic, part of my heritage. I am 2 percent neanderthal.” I replied.
In essence, she continued to inform me in her own way it was socially unacceptable to not maintain the foundation of my forehead.
I like my unruly eyebrows.
Sure, I could trim them up and look youthful and mowed, but I will pass for the time being.
(The thirteen year veteran of life has been encouraged to make his own choices on the matter. His brow is unified in solidarity, and he can do as he sees fit.)
She is not the only one to counsel me on my grooming standards.
Numerous folks have discussed my body preferences with me unsolicited.
In this eyebrow instance, I find it interesting that there was a bit of scoffing when I identified with my ancestors when she identifies as a man. I may, just may have
This is a double standard. I would be fired for discussing her preferences, but she is free to berate me. 🤨
I feel like a Gieco commercial.
Another double standard is how women are allowed to critique appearance and men are not.
More times in my life than you may expect, I have had women approach me for no reason other than to notify me that I am short.
Two years ago, a woman I didn’t know rested her palm on the top of my head and patted me like a dog. Had that been a man, I may or may not have engaged in an act of violence.
In case you did not know, this a bizarre conversation starter and antisocial behavior.
I am keenly aware of my height. In one of these instances in youthful ignorance, I informed the messenger of enlightenment that they could stand to lose a few pounds. This statement was met with disgust even though it is something they could probably have controlled. (I could have controlled my tongue.)
I cannot add to my stature, but many times, diet and exercise is within reach, just as the trimmers for the brows are.
Don’t get me wrong. It is OK to be confident in your body type and it is not OK to tear others down. (FYI, I do not typically go blow for blow on insults and observations.)
Well, those are my current thoughts on the matter.