Online Bullying And Stressors.

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Hello, Benjamin from Brother’s Campfire here.

I was going to do a really fun story about an executive of a company that tried to make sport of me on the business site, Linkedin.

He backpedaled and deleted.

On a business website, you are promoting your brand. Your name isn’t so anonymous and it is important to behave yourself carefully. I guess that is why he backpedaled. He had much more to lose than me.

Sun Tzu tactics are a work in progress here. On my end, there should be some grace to leave folks an out when they are losing.

There is too much chomping at the bit to retaliate when someone tries to make me look small.

Again, a work in progress for me.

In prison, inmates behind the cell doors say a lot of mean things; the gaurds on the other side do as well. It is called being a door warrior. If that door ever opens, there is a big demeanor change on both sides.

I think online is a lot like being a door warrior.

Me doing a “fun” story over a little slight would have been immature anyways. There are all sorts of ways to deal with bullying or perceived threats, and I should be better than that.

I am a bit sensitive at the moment, and it doesn’t help.

These are stressful times and sometimes it would be nice for the stressors to compile themselves into a solid form so I could duke it out fairly, but it isn’t that way of things.

I am not looking for encouragement so let me know what causes you the most stress in your life in the comments below.

(It can be as small as belly button lint build up. That stresses me out too. Don’t feel bad).

Author: Benjamin

Benjamin Thiel is a community leader, urban farmer, and author of The Ongoing Tale at Brothers Campfire. He might know a guy...

21 thoughts on “Online Bullying And Stressors.”

  2. cheriewhite says:

    My husband’s loud snoring was my biggest stressor. Thank the Lord he now has a C-Pap! 💤💤💤🌛

    2. Benjamin says:

      Great poem Hobbo! I guess I leave those 4 liners a place or two! 🤠🔥

  4. Lady A says:

    It can be hard to get that balance right. I have a number of friends who are from a different background than I was, and I do find that many of my friends who are from the north of England have a very jovial, teasing nature about their character, and exchange a great deal of mutual teasing and poking fun at each other in a very friendly manner. It took me a while to understand their humour, but I do admire at how well grounded they are, how well they cope with stress because of their humour and cheer, and at how they can laugh embarrassments and mistakes off and carry on. They take things on the chin with a grin as it were.

    There are fewer things I am stressed about these days. I suppose I feel some anxiety about people I love who are struggling with either their physical or emotional health, and I worry much more about others than any challenge I am personally facing.

    1. Benjamin says:

      Thank you for the advice, Lady A. I think prison culture where I work is much like you describe.

      There have been so many things going on that some of that thick skin has wore off a bit.

      I appreciate the counsel and an thankful to have you as a friend! 🤠🔥

  5. MichaelStephenWills says:

    Thanks for the, new to me, phrase “Being a door warrior.” Your linking this behavior to the internet is totally appropriate.

    1. Benjamin says:

      Thanks. I am trying to avoid a whole lot more than the Blogosphere in online interaction. I feel good when I write, but nit when I fight online. 🤠🔥

  6. kagould17 says:

    My stress these days is just trying to walk on our icy sidewalks. What is it they say, “Don’t sweat the petty stuff and don’t pet the sweaty stuff.” Stress is not the problem, it is how we react to stress. There are always people out there who will tear you down to build themselves up. I do my best to avoid them. Doesn’t always work, but I keep trying. 😊

  7. Dawn Pisturino says:

    LinkedIn USED to be very professional, but not anymore. It’s now used as a dating site, for political rants, scammers, and even bullying. I think COVID has had a lot to do with it.

    1. Benjamin says:

      I am considering letting it go. I will likely not gain employment being on there.

  8. Homemaking in the Dunes says:

    My biggest stressor is our large 4 year Golden Retriever with a 6 month puppy mind who delights in tripping me on daily basis. Of course, I have a sassy teenage girl.

  9. Omatra7 says:

    Hmm… well I always worry my ex gonna come try to do something – that makes me feel nervous – I’m just on guard always with that – but is fine. So far so good.

    And … hmm feel bad?well at work I can see alot of devastating and bad things… and then you also see the grief and someone’s heart break so – that’s always hard… there are occasions the emotions hit us too.

    Or the ones who can’t not handle grief… they are so sad and I know that heartache – you just don’t want to see another experiencing it… but anyway – that makes me feel bad

  10. Cassa Bassa says:

    My major stressor is that people’s inability in following simple instructions.

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